Sunday, August 31, 2008

Go BIG or Go Home!

QUOTE: "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure... Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you."- Marianne Williamson, A Return To Love

After sharing my personal "Video Vision Board" with my 10,000+ readers this week, I received a lot of comments and questions. One of the ones that stood out the most for me was this one:

"Hey Fabienne, just watched the You Tube video. It's awesome. I'm not sure
what it is that keeps me from living in the music of possibility. I keep holding
myself to something small like "Hoping for another client this month." And
here you are on Oprah and making videos with Bono. So cool!! What do I
need to drop in order to step in to 'YES' and let go of 'HUH?'."

An amazing question, especially since not everyone is brave enough to "go there". What I've witnessed, especially because of the extended time I've been lucky to spend with my Platinum MasterMind members this last year, is that many people have massive doubt about their ability to do something big in this world, including myself up until recently.

And because we're doubtful about our ABILITY to accomplish something BIG, we don't allow ourselves the chance to think big, for fear of failing miserably and confirming our own original thoughts. The self-doubt gets hold of us even BEFORE we begin to craft our vision. So we keep playing a mediocre game and living a mediocre life as a result (mediocre, in the sense that your life is probably 'good enough' now, but it could be SO much sweeter and richer, if you allowed yourself to play bigger.)

The solution? It's time to drop the self-doubt and live in FAITH. Most people continue to play small because of feelings of unworthiness. We've all been put down in our lives, especially in our childhood, and sometimes by the people we thought we were the safest with. And we've pushed down our big thinking and play a "beige" existence.

Enough of the beige existence. Enough mediocrity. You ARE enough. You are NOT inadequate. In fact, you are powerful beyond measure. There is nothing you cannot accomplish if you believe in yourself. There is nothing you cannot accomplish if you move past the fear of failure or the fear of really being "seen" in a big way. This is your time to shine.

You, me, Bono, Oprah... we're all just people. They still brush their teeth and have indigestion sometimes, like we do. But the difference is that they simply made the DECISION to play big one day. And then they BELIEVED. They were scared too, and they did it anyway. They too didn't know HOW they were going to fulfill their big dreams (I certainly don't know how I will reach mine, but I believe they'll happen) but they went for it anyway. That's all.

Your Assignment:

I recommend you work on your OWN big vision, starting tonight. Make a list of people you admire greatly and what they've accomplished in the world. Then, get inspired by that and create your own list of what YOU would accomplish if you could do anything. (HINT: you can.) And whenever you start thinking, "What? ME... do THIS?" then it means it's EXACTLY what you should be shooting for. All you need to do is look for the opportunities and get support to manifest your vision. That is when your life will become even sweeter and richer. :)

There's a saying I love: "If you're not living on the edge, you're taking up too much room." I don't know who first coined this phrase, but it's recently become one of my favorites, a mantra I've adopted. Have it become yours too. I assure you that you CAN do this. Go for it! I'm here to support you.

© 2008 Client Attraction LLC. All Rights Reserved.

Fabienne Fredrickson, The Client Attraction Mentor, is founder of the Client Attraction System™ and, the proven step-by-step program to attract more clients, make more m’oney being self-employed, while having more time off to enjoy it all. To receive your F.R.E.E. Audio CD by mail and get weekly how-to articles on attracting more clients, visit

Sunday, August 17, 2008

Make A Decision And "The Way" Will Show Up

I've discovered something really interesting in terms of human behavior over the last 3 years. I'm shocked to notice how often people stop themselves by using excuses for not doing something in their business, and in their lives. The thing is, they're not even aware of it. Here's what I mean... People SAY they want something very badly, that they want a change, and theoretically, that they'd do anything to get it.

But when the rubber meets the road, it's a totally different story. For many, when it's time to take action, they're not WILLING to take the steps or do the work that creates the result. And they use excuses about time and mo-ney as the trap door, their escape route:

"I can't do 'x' because I don't have the mo-ney right now"
"I can't do 'y' because I've already got something planned for that day"

I see it plain as day and I see it happen EVERY day. It's the "Inner Self-Doubt" that consistently has someone question every single move they make in growing their business or their in-come.

It's that same inner self-doubt that creates the excuse that invariably comes up, either having to do with time OR mo-ney, or something along the lines of "I'm not sure this is right for MY business." And what I'm convinced about, because I've witnessed it in my own life and then in the lives of hundreds (if not thousands) of my clients, is that this inner self-doubt, questioning everything and not taking serious ACTION when the solution shows up all boil down to one thing and one thing only. And in plain english, it's called... SELF SABOTAGE.

(By the way, The same thing happens when you decide to do something and then you decide to back out at the last minute. There are people who do this again and again. It's what I call "waffling" and it's another form of self-sabotage, something that you use to keep yourself from playing a bigger game in your life.)

In all the years I've been working with solopreneurs, I have seen countless people beg for a change in their business, pray to make a lot more mo-ney, and yet, when the answer is delivered and it's right there in front of them (in whatever form it shows up) they use excuses, turn away or question whether it's right for them.

Realize that THE limitation around getting to the next level in their business is created by your own mindset. Then you can make a change in perspective, stop using excuses and "just go for it", then the results show up. Here's the process I've witnessed in myself and in my clients recently:

  1. They make a firm DECISION (to succeed, buy something, attend something, or whatever)
  2. They stop over thinking
  3. They quiet the inner critic and the relentless self-doubt
  4. They look for different ways of making it happen
  5. They take action, IN SPITE OF the "fear"
  6. They are then rewarded very handsomely.

Widening your perspective around success starts with a DECISION. Once you make a decision to succeed, it's time to commit to doing whatever it takes to make it happen.

Whatever it takes.

Instead of saying "I can't afford this", ask yourself "How *can* I afford this?
" Instead of saying "I'm already busy that day", you'll begin to find ways to move things around to make it happen. It's a SMALL shift in perception, but it is absolutely life-changing when you begin to think that way. Instead of stopping the flow, you begin to search for opportunities, for solutions. You begin to act like a detective, looking for different ways to make it happen.

And that's when it shows up.

I've often thought that, if I can't get into a house from the front door, then I'll look for the back door. And if the back door's locked, then it's time to look for an open window. And if all the windows are shut tight, then the storm door or basement door, etc. Too many people simply try the obvious way of doing something, often, by just looking at their bank account or their calendar. And then they stop there.

And you know what? There is ALWAYS a way. But only if you're willing to look for a different way. Only if you don't get stopped at the front door, thinking, "Oh well, it wasn't meant to be!"

It's about letting go of mediocrity and trusting that there IS a way to get what you want, or to do what you want to do for your business or in your life. You see, once you make the COMMITMENT to find a way to make it happen, the way to do that thing shows up. Always.

Your Assignment:

Let me ask you this...

What is it that you are wanting to do that you're stopping yourself with excuses or mo-ney or time?

Make a list. If you can be honest about it, really honest with yourself and you see yourself doing this very thing, I want to ask you this...

How BADLY do you want this thing, whatever it is? How BADLY can you taste it?

Before you say, "But wait, Fabienne. There ISN'T enough mo-ney for this in my bank account." or "Fabienne, I've already got something planned for then", notice that it's all a question of your perception. If it were a life-or-death thing, you WOULD find the mo-ney, you WOULD clear your schedule. And so it CAN be done. And if it can be done, then the excuse is no longer valid.

If you want something really badly, then you need to approach it as if it were a life-or-death situation. You need to have your ACTIONS match what you say you want. Otherwise, a year from now, 10 years from now, 30 years from now, you'll be in the same place you are now. Is that what you really want?

It comes down to being WILLING to act differently. It's not just thinking differently, it's about taking bold and decisive action toward what you say you want in your business or your life. It's about saying YES to what's possible for you. Saying YES to the opportunities that are divinely given to you. And then taking action. Your business, your life, your in-come will never be the same. I promise you that.

© 2008 Client Attraction LLC. All Rights Reserved.

Fabienne Fredrickson, The Client Attraction Mentor, is founder of the Client Attraction System™ and, the proven step-by-step program to attract more clients, make more m’oney being self-employed, while having more time off to enjoy it all. To receive your F.R.E.E. Audio CD by mail and get weekly how-to articles on attracting more clients, visit